14 Differences Between The Girl You Date And The Woman You Marry

Think about one of the questions below for a moment.

If you are married, in what way is the girl you dated different from the woman you married? If you are single or dating, in what way do you want the woman you marry to be different from the girl you are dating? What thoughts come to your mind? I bet you have a few thoughts, I also do.

If you go through dating and your marriage journey, you will inevitable look back to realize the girl you dated is different from the woman are married to. To clarify, l do not mean she would become a brand new person. What l mean is that her priorities and perspective about life and marriage will improve in many ways.
Hopefully, for the better. Either way, the woman you marry will not be the same as the girl you dated.

1. The girl you date does not want to meet your family or friends, she wants you all to herself. The woman you marry wants to know your family and friends. She knows without them, you would not be where you are, and who you are today.

2. The girl you date is overly worried about her nails been done all the time, her eyelashes looking in a certain style, and being beautiful for her peers. Her physical beauty is important to her. The woman you marry is not overly worried about her nails being done. Instead, she is worried about being beautiful for her man, even if that means wearing no makeup. She focuses on her internal beauty and character building, because she knows real beauty comes from within.

3. The girl you date only cares about her career and her vision for life. She comes before the relationship, and does not make her future plans with you in mind. The woman you marry cares about your career and your vision of life as well as her own. She knows you also have a plan, and works together with you to achieve the goals you both have. The marriage is her priority.

4. The girl you date loves the financial cushion you can provide. She also expects something back whenever she gives. The woman you marry wants to build a financial cushion with you. She believes that two heads will always be better than one. When she gives, she does not expect anything back.

5. The girl you date believes she knows
everything. The woman you marry is open to learning something new, and knows there is always room for improvement.

6. The girl you date is scared to tell you her deepest secrets. The woman you marry will share her deepest secrets with you, even if it means losing you. She trusts you, and shares everything with you. She knows honesty is always the best policy.

7. The girl you date does not get excited about marriage and children (even if she wants to have some one day). The woman you marry gets excited about marriage and starting a family with you.

8. The girl you date shows her cleavage all the time. The woman you marry is more modest because she knows her attributes are for your eyes only.

9. The girl you date is not concerned about cooking for you. The woman you marry loves not only to cook, but chooses delicious and healthy meals. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach after all, right?

10. The girl you date is overly concerned about how long you will be around, and how she can keep you. The woman you marry is not too concerned about keeping you because she knows you want to have a future with her. She is mature enough to know you can never force someone to stay and that you each have to choose each other every day, again and again.

11. The girl you date is not willing to compromise with you. The woman you marry is willing to compromise, and sees compromise as a necessity for a healthy marriage

12. The girl you date thrives on constant attention from you. The woman you marry mirrors your affection and thrives on providing you with the love, support, and respect you need.

13. The girl you date tries to change who you are and compares you to her ex. The woman you marry accepts you for who you are and will not compare you to her ex. She knows you are the best and that you cannot change another person no matter how hard you try.

14. The girl you date has to be entertained. The woman you marry is someone you can have fun with, relax, do activities, or do nothing together and still enjoy each other’s company.
What are your thoughts on these differences between the girl you date and the woman you marry?

SEX and Its eFfects in Marriages

Sex can keep a marriage strong and lack of it can destroy a marriage.

When there are sexual problems in a marriage, it is a sign that that marriage is doomed.

Two ways to keep your sex life active is to make time for one another and to talk with each other about your sexual problems.

Lack of communication about sexual problems and lack of caring can tear your marriage apart.

If you have waited several months to talk about your sexual problems with your spouse, you’ve waited too long.

Now is the time to work on your communication and spend more time with each other. Delay is dangerous.

MUST READ: ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?

During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind

replied the author.

Here’s the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.

You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love. People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!

15 Ways Guys Say ‘I Love You’ Without Saying It

He may lean in closer when you’re discussing important topics or nod when you say something poignant, showing how much your words mean to him.

1. Passionate, Long-Lasting Kisses:
Who doesn’t love an excellent, lengthy kiss? When he’s continuously initiating these and you can feel the passion each time he does, it is clear that he’s more than just a little excited to be around you.

2. His Friends Love You:
If all his buddies are starting to warm up to you and truly seem to enjoy your company, it could be because they know how happy you’re making their friend — thus making them start to find you as awesome as he does.

3. Close Personal Distance:
You know how it’s unnerving when somebody you’re not interested in gets close to you? It’s the complete opposite when someone you adore tends to be closer in distance than he is to other people.

4. Smiling After Kissing:
Sure, you can have a little sweet smile after kissing someone whose company you enjoy, but do you ever just feel like positively beaming when it’s someone you love? If you catch him grinning after your kisses all the time, it’s a great sign that he truly enjoys your company.

5. He Listens Intently:
While he might not be saying much when it comes to your relationship and his feelings about it, the fact that he listens closely when you’re talking is incredibly significant. He may lean in closer when you’re discussing important topics or nod when you say something poignant, showing how much your words mean to him.

6. Upright Posture:
Most of us tend to slouch and have poorer posture than we should. However, if you’re trying to impress the person you care about most and want him or her to be most attracted to you, you’re going to stand or sit straight up.

7. Hand Squeezing:
I once had a relationship with a guy who loved holding my hand and would occasionally squeeze it tightly when we were cuddling or out with friends, but hated any other kind of cutesy couple-like act. I always wondered why he was so opposed, but then I realized that every time he squeezed my hand, he was trying to say, “I love you” in a quiet, simple way.

8. Calling (Or Texting) For No Reason:
Not all people do this when in love, so don’t take it personally if he doesn’t. That said, it’s a sign that he feels comfortable with you in non-romantic situations as well as the obvious ones, and that he’s thinking of you throughout the day.

9. He Sticks Around:
Does he like to do activities together for no reason? For example, rather than just wanting to meet up at a dinner party, he’d rather go grocery shopping with you beforehand so the two of you can make a dish to bring together. Simply doing household things shows an interest in being closer than just casual dates or sex partners.

10. Eye Contact Often:
When you’re at a bar with friends, does he glance across the room just to make eye contact briefly and smile at one another? This indicates how, even when you two are doing different things, he still wants you to be aware of how much he cares.

11. Hair Ruffling:
When people are nervous, they tend to run their fingers through their hair more often than normal. Does he do this when the pair of you are in close proximity to one another and it’s a romantic moment? If so, it could show that he wants to say something intimate but can’t find the words.

12. Mirrored Behavior:
Does he tend to take bites of his food at the same time as you or do other things similarly? He could be displaying isopraxism, the matching or behaviors that couples tend to do when becoming closer together.

13. Meaningful Gifts:
When I say ‘meaningful,’ I don’t mean ‘expensive’; I mean that he spends effort and puts serious thought into finding you something that truly fits your personality to a T. I had one guy give me three pairs of socks: one with a crazy cute pattern, one specifically for boots and one for high heels. The week prior, I had gotten a blister on my foot due to not having thick enough socks for a pair of boots I had just purchased, so it was super sweet and a clear indication of his listening skills that he remembered.

14. Frequent Laughing:
Does he find you funny and can’t help but giggle when you do something silly? As odd as it sounds, the more often he laughs and finds you hilarious, the more serious the level of interest and excitement surrounding your relationship is.

15. Spontaneous Touching:
When you’re in a public place, does he put his fingers on your back to keep you close by? Does he hold your hand atop yours while you two are in a restaurant? Random closeness via touching shows that he wants to maintain physical contact, even when it’s not intimate.

What’s the difference between thanking and praising GOD?

Have you ever wondered about the difference between thanking and praising the Lord? The Bible talks about both, but it’s easy to combine the two as one.

It’s easy to think that they both mean the same thing when actually there’s a difference, and knowing this difference can help us to experience the Lord in a more detailed way. So what’s the difference between thanking and praising the Lord, and how does it affect our experience?

What it means to thank the Lord:

To thank the Lord is to thank Him for the things that He’s done for us and provided for us. We may thank Him for another day to experience Him and enjoy Him or for providing us with food to eat and a house to live in. We may thank Him for giving us a job when we’re looking for work or thank Him for saving a family member that we’ve been praying for over a period of years.

This is what it means to thank the Lord: we thank Him for all of the things that He’s done for us.

What it means to praise the Lord:

Praising the Lord, on the other hand, is even higher and more meaningful than thanking Him. When we praise the Lord, we praise Him for who He is and what He’s done apart from what He’s done for us.
For example, we can praise Him for His redeeming death on the cross, His resurrection from the dead, and His ascension to the heavens. We can praise Him as the One seated at the right hand of God far above all rule and authority and as the One who is the Head over all things to the church.
These are all marvelous aspects of who Christ is–apart from any benefit to us. Regardless of our situation or what we’re going through, Christ is a marvelous and glorious One who is worthy to be praised.

Why it’s good to thank and praise the Lord:

As Christians, it’s very good for us to thank and to praise the Lord.
We should be thankful people who take time to express our thanks to the Lord. Thanking Him is a practice that’s mentioned in the Bible, and it’s good for us to experience this in our Christian life. It saves us from being bitter, and it saves us from being ungrateful.
First Thessalonians 5:16-18 says this about thanking the Lord:
16 Always rejoice,
17 Unceasingly pray,
18 In everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
This verse mentions that in everything we should give thanks. Why? Because it’s impossible for us to know all of the wonderful things the Lord does and the marvelous ways that He works. Thus, we want to be those who thank Him in all things. We also want to be those who praise Him. Praising the Lord is very good and very important for us to do. It allows us to get out of our situation and to forget about ourselves. We can forget about any problems and any woes we may have. We can forget about the job we’ve yet to receive or how poor or pitiful we think that we are. Instead, we get out of ourselves and praise God for who He is. No matter what we’re experiencing or what we’re going through, God is worthy to be praised. He’s the Creator of the Universe, the Redeemer, the Lamb, the Christ of God, the Savior, and the King. He’s so many things to us! As such a One, he’s worthy to be praised!

We can also praise Him at any time. We can praise Him in a meeting with other Christians, and we can praise Him in our car on the way to work. We can also praise Him when we’re at home and our situation isn’t so promising. Even if the outlook is bleak, we can take time to praise the Lord. In doing so, we get out of our situation, and we see Christ as the wonderful One that He is. We realize that even though our situation is not so good, Christ is good and worthy to be praised. We even forget that our problems exist and only care to praise the Lord for who He is.

We can simply say:

Lord, I praise You for who You are and for what You’ve done. I praise You as the One who is sitting on the throne at the right hand of God. I praise You as the One who is far above all rule and authority and power and lordship. Lord, You are worthy to be praised. You’re the alpha and the omega, the beginning and the end, the firstborn of all creation and the firstborn son of God. Praise You Lord Jesus! Praise You for who You are! You are surely worthy to be praised! Praise You dearest Lord!

By praising in this way, we get out of our situation, and we see the Lord for who He really is. We forget about ourselves, and we look away unto Jesus who is the Author and Perfect of our faith ( Hebrews 12:2).

Whether you’re going through a difficult time or not, it’s good to thank and to praise the Lord. We can thank Him and praise Him at any time. We have so much to thank Him for because He’s done so much for us. We also have so much to praise Him for because of the marvelous, wonderful Person that He is.

May we all learn to thank and to praise the Lord in a daily way. By thanking Him, we acknowledge all of the things He’s done for us; by praising Him, we get out of our situation and praise Him as the One who’s worthy to be praised.

Oh Lord! Teach us how to thank You and praise You so that we can experience You in a deeper and richer way!

10 Proven Signs That A Lady Ain’t Interested In You.

1. CONSTANTLY ASKING FOR FAVORS:

You know, this is not even about girls but trust nobody who constantly ask you for favors, they are only taking advantage. In the case of girls, if she constantly asks for your help especially when it comes to finances and buying stuff for her, it’s just clear that she is in for the goodies, don’t be fooled bro .. some even ask for favors that Bill Gates daughter won’t even ask her father.

2. SHE NEVER RETURN YOUR CALLS:

She barely return your text messages and missed calls and when she does, it’s mostly the ‘k’, ‘lol’ ‘yes’ kind of replies after taking days to respond. I need not tell you that she’s not interested in you.

3. SHE ALWAYS COMES OUT WITH YOU WITH HER GIRLS:

This is a clear sign to alert you that this girl don’t want alone time, she’s only there to please her friends or make her friends enjoy a bit of the goodies you are offering. Look elsewhere or grab one of her friends if you can. Some girls might even bring male friends just to piss you off, while you foot the bills.

4. SHE NEVER TAKES PICTURES WITH YOU:

If you are the guy always taking photos of the girl or if she prefer taking photos of the food, drink, gift you bought for her instead, then my bro, be prepared to move on. You don’t matter like that. Try go through her social media/phone if there’s no photo of you, think twice. Some people might say it doesn’t matter but trust me every girl that loves you will share beautiful moments you share together or want to take pictures with you, every minute you spend together. Don’t ignore this, it’s a cemented fact.

5. SHE INTRODUCES YOU TO HER FRIENDS AS A ‘FRIEND’ :

I was once asked why do guys hate when they are introduced as a friend, and my answer was why not? Ladies should know that this particular thing hurts more than being shot, especially when you are so into her and in your head she’s the love of your life. That is clear that she’s not in a relationship with you, at least to her friends or whoever you got introduced to.

6. SHE FLIRTS WITH YOUR FRIENDS OR FIND YOUR FRIENDS WAY COOLER:

The worst that could happen is introducing your girl to your friends and she start to get flirty with them. It could be for the fun of it but if she’s usually bored around you but come alive when she’s with you and your friends, try do your homework well or simply leave her to one of your friends, not an easy decision though but it will save you time to move on.

7. SHE NEVER COMMENTS ON HOW YOU LOOK :

Everybody like compliments but if even in your best, she never say, “you look good” or “I like what you are wearing” then the answer is simple, ‘SHE DON’T CARE’. It’s straight like that. Don’t sweat it.

8. ACTS FRIENDLY WHENEVER SHE IS NEED :

She usually calls you all the sweet names, ‘boo boo’, hun, bla bla … only when she needs a favor. Do you still need to be told bro?

9. SHE FINDS YOU BORING :

This is how to tell if a girl thinks you are boring, she don’t laugh to your jokes, she’s constantly on her phone when you are with her, if you don’t break the silence, she don’t make any effort to make a convo, she don’t even shout or sing along to her favorite song when you play it in her presence, bro, you are trying too much, go for someone who appreciate you, especially if you don’t think you are that boring.

10. SHE NEVER WANT TO GET INTIMATE WITH YOU:

If after all this, you are still with her, getting a kiss, touch, sex will be one hell of a problem, you are going to be put on a strict timetable. NO PDA (don’t even think about it). During séx, that’s if she decide to give you one finally, might be boring than a couple in their late 90′s trying to have a CanineApproach

6 Things Women Notice In Men Right Away

First impressions may be made in moments, but they predict the course your relationships follow.

So if you know what exactly about you draws in the votes, you can perfect it — and do better with the opposite sex. So what do women notice immediately?

According to Dr Gordon Patzer, author of Looks: Why They Matter More Than You Ever Imagined, and one of the world’s leading authorities on physical attractiveness, a lot of what women notice in the first few minutes is appearance- based. “A substantial portion of the six features of a man are apparent, in terms of height, weight and overall physical attractiveness,” he says. And when appearances don’t make the cut, the door slams shut on further interactions. Here’s a list of things to keep that door open.

1. Physical stature

Yep, you knew this already: size matters. Height and weight are right on top of the list of things women notice. “Too much or too little of either immediately classifies the man as unattractive to women, and closes the door before less physically obviously features (such as confidence) can be determined,” says Dr Patzer. Take heart though, the acceptable range is influenced by the woman’s own height and weight.

2. Appearances and attractiveness

Yes, beauty is skin deep, but it’s going to get women to explore what lies beneath. Attractiveness does include what you were born with, but your genes alone can’t scuttle your chances. What really counts is what you do with your hair, clothes, grooming and basic hygiene. If you can’t make the effort, women certainly are not going to work hard to learn more about you!

3. Smile

Once women are done assessing your overall build, women will look at your smile. “The ability to smile, particularly within the first few minutes of meeting, sends a welcoming, non-hostile signal to women,” says Dr Patzer. There is one proviso though — the smile must show off reasonably good-looking teeth. It’s never too late to fix an appointment with the dentist!

4. Humour

Another reason to show off those pearly whites! Women like men who have the ability to laugh. Even better, make the woman laugh. That instantly nets you bonus points!

5. Confidence

Women find confident men attractive. According to Dr Sameer Malhotra, head of psychiatry and psychotherapy department at Fortis Hospital in New Delhi, within the first few minutes of meeting, women will not only suss out your level of confidence, they will also interpret the vibes you give out and how you think. “Women notice how clear or decisive you are and whether you approach things positively.” Just remember, cockiness and arrogance are not the same as confidence!

6. Conversation

Men have successfully given womankind the impression of being strong and silent. So women aren’t expecting you to have mad talking skills. All you’ve got to do hold her attention. “We know (scientifically) that the more or longer that a woman gets to know a man, the more physically attractive he becomes in her mind,” says Dr Patzer. Women are looking for someone to keep up the conversation — so forget the one-liners, just be yourself!

*** Signs Of Immaturity In Marriage: FOR MEN ***

1) Rejecting food wen there’s an issue:

Oga husband, you gave your wife money for food and after it was prepared you refuse to eat because ‘you dey vex’. Its one of the greatest signs of immaturity, its time to grow up! You should not even abandon your home for any reason, you could go somewhere wen angry but ensure that you don’t allow it 2 linger unnecessarily because that is enough for the devil to build on.

2) Telling your wife severally that you are the head:

May I let you know that even when your wife disobey’s/disrespect you she still knows that you are the head. Yu need not shout or scream it daily. Its important for you to know when and how to be firm and put your feet down over issues, however don’t become a nagging husband just to prove that you are the head.

3) Issuing threats:

Beating, verbally abusing your wife, issuing threats of divorce or bragging about marrying another wife does not make you a man. Your strength is in your ability to tame your tongue and control your fist. When she is acting her “childish woman” part, play the “matured man.”

4) Reporting your wife to friends and family:

When your wife offends, correct and talk things through. You don’t have to tell everyone about her mistakes, that will paint her black nd sell her cheap such that you will not be able to redeem her back. It is also out of place for any man to love his mother more than his wife and kids, doing this only sets up your home for crisis.

5) Competition:

Have you seen couples who compete with each other over material acquisitions? Their properties and investments are always in separate names. As the wife borrows to buy a Ferrari, the husband is running after a bugatti. How childish can we be? This also leads to insecurity, jealousy and inferiority/superiority complex. Please let’s check ourselves and work as a team

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10 WORST REASONS TO HAVE SEX

Ever considered sleeping with someone for a raise or to get back at your back-stabbing best friend? Don’t feel ashamed, we’re all friends here and if we’re really and truly honest with ourselves most of us, at some point, have thought about having sex with someone to gain something for our own benefit. In a vow never to stoop that low again though we’ve compiled this list of the 10 worst reasons to have sex, so take a look and see if you can spot anything you’ve done before.

1. To get famous

Although sleeping with a famous person might get you noticed, it’s for all the wrong reasons and do you really want to be that much of a cliché? Even if said famous star promises you the world and you are blinded by the glamour of living on a tour bus or going on a credit card shopping jaunt post-sex, take a deep breath, slap yourself and remind yourself that you have too much self-respect to go through with this.

2. Revenge

It turns out that revenge is a dish best served — with your clothes on. Sex is a personal business, which means that sleeping with someone can hurt other people easily. Whoever you’re trying to hurt doesn’t really matter. What does matter is that in the cold light of day, when you have a stranger trying to spoon you, you will not feel triumphant or satisfied. You will feel mean and unhappy. Do you really want to be known as that person who uses sex as a weapon?

3. Promotion

Research from the Center for Work-Life Policy found that 15% of women at director level slept with their bosses and 37% of those saucy nights resulted in a career boost. Although you might get rewarded for sleeping with your boss in the short-term, how will you cope when your colleagues no longer respect you? You’ll be forever haunted by the thought that you didn’t earn that promotion.

4. Pity

So, you’re a nice person; that doesn’t mean you have to sleep with that person who has just been dumped and is now crying on a bar stool in a drunken heap of self-pity. Not only is pity sex morally wrong, you need to ask yourself why you want to sleep with someone you feel sorry for. Do you have an overpowering and unhealthy need to look after others? Plus, the person you feel sorry for may become disastrously attached to you and we all know how “Fatal Attraction” ended, don’t we?

5. Get over an ex

Love hurts. When you break up with someone it can feel like your world has ended and all you want to do is forget. However, unfortunately a memory wiper hasn’t been invented yet and so lots of people try to sleep with someone new in order to get over their ex. The problem is, if you’re not yet over your ex, sleeping with someone new will simply make you miss your guy or girl more. This is because everything you guys do in bed will be different to how you two did it; from the way they kiss you to the post-sex awkwardness. If anything, sleeping with someone before you’re ready will set you back further.

6. Make someone want you

If you’ve been after that beautiful girl or hot guy and don’t seem to be getting anywhere, getting with someone in front of them can seem like a great way to make them jealous so that they finally see that you are the one for them. Yet, your life isn’t a movie and chances are it won’t. In reality, sleeping with someone else in front of the person you like tells them that you’re not interested in them. Also you run the risk of them finding out that you only slept with someone else to get them, which makes you lose around 100 attractive points.

7. To make someone love you

Even if you’re Casanova and you were a shadow writer for the original Karma Sutra book, having sex with someone will not necessarily make them fall in love with you. Studies have found that those couples that slept together within the first month of dating had worse relationships in the long-term. Therefore if you want to get yourself this guy or girl, hold off and wait until you’re both ready to get under the covers – you’ll be thankful in the long-term.

8. A bet

Okay, so winning that wad of cash and proving everyone wrong sounds like the most important thing right now, but how will you feel when you have an upset and rightfully angry guy or girl on your hands? The chances are, the person you are sleeping with for a bet will find out and even if they don’t, what goes around comes around. Karma will definitely come back and bite you on the butt.

9. Comfort yourself

If you’ve had a crappy day at work, or someone asked when you were due (despite the fact that you are definitely not pregnant), it can be tempting to hit a bar and make yourself feel hot by hooking up with a stranger or that weird girl from your office. However, although you may feel wanted during those magical 20 minutes of sex, when that person you hooked up with leaves as soon as the sun rises, you’ll feel alone and your self-esteem will take a huge hit.

10. Boredom

Boredom can make us put on weight, make terrible decisions and it can even make us sleep with someone. Yet, be careful. When you sleep with someone there’s a good chance that they might get attached to you. In part, this attachment could be because oxytocin, the hormone responsible for bonding, is released in our bodies after sex. This hormone can make you feel close to someone and it may mean that your boredom-induced fling becomes a problem for you in the future.

MUST READ: A Letter From Hell (Source Unknown)

One day a woman named Louise fell asleep in her bed, and dreamed a very fitful dream. She dreamed that someone in Hell wrote a letter to her, and it was to be delivered to her by a messenger. The messenger passed between the lakes of burning fire and brimstone that occupies Hell, and found his way to the door that would lead him to the outside world. Louise dreamed that the messenger walked to her house, came inside, and gently but firmly woke Louise up. He gave her the message, saying only that a friend had wrote it to her from Hell. Louise, in her dream, with trembling hands took the letter and read:

My Friend,
I stand in Judgment now,
And feel that you’re to blame somehow.
On earth, I walked with you day by day,
And never did you point the way.
You knew the Lord in truth and glory,
But never did you tell the story.
My knowledge then was very dim;
You could have led me safe to Him.
Though we lived together on the earth,
You never told me of the second birth,
And now I stand this day condemned,
Because you failed to mention Him.
You taught me many things, that’s true,
I called you “friend” and trusted you,
But I learn now that it’s too late,
You could have kept me from this fate.
We walked by day and talked by night,
And yet you showed me not the Light.
You let me live, and love, and die,
You knew I’d never live on high.
Yes, I called you a “friend” in life,
And trusted you through joy and strife.
And yet on coming to the end,
I cannot, now, call you “My Friend.”
Marsha

After reading the letter, Louise awoke. The dream was still so real in her mind and sweat dropped from her body in pools. She swore she could still smell the acrid smell of brimstone and smoke from her room. As she contemplated the meaning of her dream, she realized that as a Christian, she has failed in her duty to “go out to all the world and preach the gospel.” As she thought of that, she promised herself that the next day, she would call Marsha and invite her to church with her.

The next morning she called Marsha and this was the conversation:

Yes, Bill, Is Marsha there?
Louise, you don’t know?
No, Bill, know what?
Marsha WAS KILLED LAST NIGHT IN A CAR ACCIDENT. I thought you had known.

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LADIES DID YOU KNOW THIS??

1. Beauty attracts men but wisdom keeps them.
2. Elegance catches men’s attention but intelligence convinces them.
3. Nagging irritates men but ‘constructive word’ silence and weakens them.
4. The ‘boy’ in everyman pumps out occasionally, your ability to handle this, is a woman’s truest maturity.
5. Men have secret struggles and silent pains. should you ever find them out exhibit the greatest maturity.
6. In the long-run your ‘words’ matters more to a man than your ‘looks’. so invest the right words.
7. Earn a man’s respect and he will consider you the yard stick 4 all his action.
8. Learn to mould the moods of your man.
9. Men will naturally give u their futures if they can recall your maturity in yesterday’s issues..
10. Women are every where but queens are scarce. Let the queen in you come alive and he will hold you in high esteem.

Start Planting!!!

Being born again, not of corruptible seed, but of incorruptible, by the word of God, which liveth and abideth for ever-1 Peter 1:23

You won’t really get excited about the Word of God until you realize that it’s more than just a collection of divinely-inspired promises. It’s a living force that literally carries within it the power to make those promises become a reality in your life.

Jesus says the Word of God works by principle. There’s miraculous power within it. It is a seed that, once planted by faith in a human heart, will produce more blessings than you can imagine.

Once you grasp that, you’ll get extremely excited about the Word of God.

Don’t treat the Word of God like a book. It’s not! It’s spiritual seed that has the supernatural power within it to produce the harvest of a lifetime. Get excited about it and start planting today!

75 Relationship Quotes to Live by…

Here are 75 relationship quotes, to help you keep things in perspective and move your relationships in a positive direction.

1. In life you’ll realize there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you, and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
2. Keep people in your life who truly love you, motivate you, encourage you, enhance you, and make you happy. If you know people who do none of these things, let them go.
3. Love is not about sex, going on fancy dates, or showing off. It’s about being with a person who makes you happy in a way nobody else can.
4. Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring – all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
5. The most beautiful thing is to see a person you love smiling. And even more beautiful is knowing that you are the reason behind it.
6. Choose your relationships wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.
7. Being alone does not mean you are lonely, and being lonely does not meanyou are alone.
8. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
9. Love means giving someone the chance to hurt you, but trusting them not to.
10. You know you’ve found true love when you catch yourself falling in love with the same person over and over again.
11. Don’t wait for the right person to come into your life. Rather, be the right person to come to someone’s life.
12. The one who is meant for you encourages you to be your best, but still loves and accepts you at your worst.
13. Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.
14. Some relationships are like glass. It’s better to leave it broken, than to hurt yourself more by trying to put it back together.
15. Just because one person doesn’t seem to care for you, doesn’t mean you should forget about everyone else who does.
16. Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right.
17. It is okay to be angry. It is never okay to be cruel.
18. Never do something permanently foolish just because you are temporarily upset.
19. Silence is often the loudest cry. Pay attention to those you care about.
20. We don’t always need advice. Sometimes all we need is a hand to hold, an ear to listen, and a heart to understand.
21. It’s not so much what you say that counts, it’ how you make people feel.
22. A silent hug means a thousand words to the unhappy heart.
23. Don’t mess with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of yours.
24. True happiness comes from within, not from someone else. Don’t make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy.
25. Don’t choose the one who is beautiful to the world, choose the one who makes your world beautiful.
26. If you feel like your ship is sinking, it might be a good time to throw out the stuff that’s been weighing it down. Let go of people who bring you down, and surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you.
27. Just because it didn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while.
28. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Don’t expect others to read your mind, and don’t play games with their heads and hearts. Don’t tell half-truths and expect people to trust you when the full truth comes out. Half-truths are no better than lies. And don’t ignore someone you care about, because lack of concern hurts more than angry words.
29. Lies help no one in the long run. So… 1) Don’t say “I love you” if you don’t mean it. 2) Don’t say “I understand” if you have no clue. 3) Don’t say “I’m sorry” if you’re not. 4)Be honest with yourself and your loved ones.
30. Tell the truth, or eventually someone will tell it for you.
31. Good relationships don’t just happen; they take time, patience and two people who truly want to work to be together.
32. Falling in love is not a choice. To stay in love is.
33. Love doesn’t hurt. Lying, cheating and screwing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts.
34. When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option but a priority. Loyalty is everything.
35. A great relationship is about two things: First, appreciating the similarities, and second, respecting the differences.
36. Jealousy is the art of counting someone else blessings instead of your own. Don’t waste your time on jealousy. The only person you’re competing against is yourself.
37. Do not become possessive. The purpose of a relationship is to complement each other, grow together, and achieve your common goals as a couple. At the same time, you must each maintain your individual identity as a human being.
38. Don’t ever change just to impress someone. Change because it makes you a better person and leads you to a better future.
39. Give, but don’t allow yourself to be used. Listen to others, but don’t lose your own voice.
40. Don’t look for someone who will solve all your problems; look for someone who will face them with you.
41. You don’t really need someone to complete you. You only need someone to accept you completely.
42. Speak when you are very angry, and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.
43. Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness. Let it go.
44. As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones.
45. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
46. Respect is earned, honesty is appreciated, trust is gained, and loyalty is returned.
47. Never waste a moment, it may be the last with someone you love.
48. If you love someone, tell them. Forget about the rules or the fear of looking ridiculous. What is really ridiculous is passing up on an opportunity to tell someone that your heart is invested in them.
49. Nobody gets through life without losing someone they love, someone they need, or something they thought was meant to be. But it is these losses that make us stronger and eventually move us toward future
opportunities.
50. Never stop doing little things for others. Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts.
51. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
52. A real person is not perfect, and a perfect person is not real.
53. To the world, you might be just one person. But to one person, you might be the world.
54. Just because you have a past with someone, doesn’t mean you should have a future with them.
55. No relationship is a waste of time. The wrong ones teach you the lessons that prepare you for the right ones.
56. The first to apologize is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest. The first to move forward is the happiest.
57. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
58. Characterize people by their actions and you will never be fooled by their words.
59. When the pain of holding on is worse than the pain of letting go, it is time to let go.
60. If a friend is in trouble, don’t bother them by asking if there is anything you can do. Think of something appropriate and do it.
61. Sometimes it is better to be kind than to be right. We do not always need an intelligent mind that speaks, just a patient heart that listens.
62. Be the friend that you want to have.
63. There are times when family are like strangers, and strangers are like family. Both sets of people are priceless.
64. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
65. Instead of judging people by their past, stand by them and help repair their future.
66. Don’t try to be everything to everyone. Be everything to someone.
67. Let us remember that we can’t force anyone to love us. We can’t beg someone to stay when they want to leave and be with someone else. This is what love is all about. However, the end of love is not the end of life. It should be the beginning of understanding that love leaves for a reason, but never leaves without a lesson.
68. When things fall apart, consider the possibility that life knocked it down on purpose. Not to bully you, or to punish you, but to prompt you to build something that better suits your personality and your purpose. Sometimes things fall apart so better things can fall together.
69. Everyone wants a perfect ending. But over the years I’ve learned that some of the best poems don’t rhyme, and many great stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, or end. Life is about not knowing, embracing change, and taking a moment and making the best of it without knowing what’s going to happen next.
70. In human relationships, distance is not measured in miles but in affection. Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles apart. So stay in touch with those who truly matter to you. Not because it’s convenient, but because they’re worth the extra effort.
71. Never neglect the people who are most important to you simply because you think they will always be there. Because one morning you might wake up and realize you lost the moon while counting the stars.
72. True love isn’t about being inseparable; it’s about two people being true to each other even when they are separated.
73. True friendship and true love do sustain the tests of distance and time.
74. When someone gives you their time, they are giving you a portion of their life that they will never get back. It’s one of the most precious gifts you can receive. Don’t waste it.
75. Good relationships are not just about the good times you share; they’re also about the obstacles you go through together, and the fact that you still say “I love you” in the end.

24 Things To Always Remember.

1. Your presence is a present to the world.

2. You’re unique and one of a kind.

3. Your life can be what you want it to be.

4. Take the days just one at a time.

5. Count your blessings, not your troubles.

6. You’ll make it through whatever comes along.

7. Within you are so many answers.

8. Understand, have courage,be strong.

9. Don’t put limits on yourself.

10. So many dreams are waiting to be realized.

11. Decisions are too important to leave to chance.

12. Reach for your peak, your goal, and your prize.

13. Nothing wastes more energy than worrying.

14. The longer one carries a problem, the heavier it gets.

15. Don’t take things too seriously.

16. Live a life of serenity, not a life of regrets.

17. Remember that a little love goes a long way.

18. Remember that a lot . . . goes forever.

19. Remember that friendship is a wise investment.

20. Life’s treasures are people . . . together.

21. Realize that it’s never too late.

22. Do ordinary things in an extraordinary way.

23. Have health and hope and happiness.

24. Take the time to wish upon a star.

And don’t ever forget for even one day how special you are..

SEVEN (7) WAYS ON HOW TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP LAST FOREVER!

Many relationships break within a short period of time but we all never take time to find the reasons why we broke up with our Ex- Girlfriends and
boyfriends. So here are the ways to make your relationship stronger and it lasts forever.

1. BEING HONEST;
If you aren’t honest with yourself, about who you are, what you want, where you are going… you can’t possibly be honest with your partner. So be honest with yourself first.

2. TRUST;
Nothing makes a relationship shaky faster than broken trust, it’s very hard to repair trust. Trust your lover from the smallest detail.

3. RESPECT;
If you want a solid relationship, respect is an essential part. You need to respect your partner’s needs and wants, their weaknesses and strengths, their dreams and goals. You need to respect who they are….

4. COMMUNICATION;
It’s hard to trust someone who won’t communicate with you well and
effectively. This includes body language… Become aware of your body language, and make certain that it reflects the actual words that come out of your mouth. Listening is as big a part. Don’t make conversations a competition. Focus on things that you have in common that’s what brings you together.

5. ATTENTION;
When you give your partner and your relationship attention, they will notice and respond. When you give them less, they will notice that, too. Give your attention in ways that show that you are thinking about them, not about you. Giving your partner attention doesn’t necessarily even involve time with them. It can be picking out something that they will like and getting it for them, or making them something, or planning a trip that they will enjoy, etc. Giving them attention simply means spending time and energy on them, even if most of
that time and energy isn’t actually with them…

6. INTIMACY;
The more intimacy your relationship has, the stronger it will be… Provided that the intimacy is mutual.

7. COMMITMENT;
Everyone needs it for a good, strong, deep relationship. The commitment I am talking about here doesn’t have to be marriage. It simply means that you can rely on the other person to be there, to put effort into your relationship, to keep you near the top of their list of priorities.

SEVEN (7) WAYS ON HOW TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP LAST FOREVER!

Many relationships break within a short period of time but we all never take time to find the reasons why we broke up with our Ex- Girlfriends and
boyfriends. So here are the ways to make your relationship stronger and it lasts forever.

1. BEING HONEST;
If you aren’t honest with yourself, about who you are, what you want, where you are going… you can’t possibly be honest with your partner. So be honest with yourself first.

2. TRUST;
Nothing makes a relationship shaky faster than broken trust, it’s very hard to repair trust. Trust your lover from the smallest detail.

3. RESPECT;
If you want a solid relationship, respect is an essential part. You need to respect your partner’s needs and wants, their weaknesses and strengths, their dreams and goals. You need to respect who they are….

4. COMMUNICATION;
It’s hard to trust someone who won’t communicate with you well and
effectively. This includes body language… Become aware of your body language, and make certain that it reflects the actual words that come out of your mouth. Listening is as big a part. Don’t make conversations a competition. Focus on things that you have in common that’s what brings you together.

5. ATTENTION;
When you give your partner and your relationship attention, they will notice and respond. When you give them less, they will notice that, too. Give your attention in ways that show that you are thinking about them, not about you. Giving your partner attention doesn’t necessarily even involve time with them. It can be picking out something that they will like and getting it for them, or making them something, or planning a trip that they will enjoy, etc. Giving them attention simply means spending time and energy on them, even if most of
that time and energy isn’t actually with them…

6. INTIMACY;
The more intimacy your relationship has, the stronger it will be… Provided that the intimacy is mutual.

7. COMMITMENT;
Everyone needs it for a good, strong, deep relationship. The commitment I am talking about here doesn’t have to be marriage. It simply means that you can rely on the other person to be there, to put effort into your relationship, to keep you near the top of their list of priorities.

BELIEVE in YourSelf.#BeMotivatedMon

When a poor,skinny black boy announced that he wanted to be the President of the USA, America laughed at him. He wasn’t rich, wasn’t
experienced and wasn’t WHITE. And
YET, today, that boy is the PRESIDENT OF the USA.

When an old, poor, ugly woman auditioned for the British show, BRITAIN’S GOT TALENT, the judges laughed at her. She was old, dirty, ugly and shabby. BUT the 47-year old SUSAN BOYLE amazed the World with her vocals, won the competition, and has sold 100 million copies of her first album!

When a poor, black Sudanese refugee girl went to Britain and got a job as a toilet cleaner, NO ONE would expect that she would be a Global Super-model. BUT today, ALEK WEK is a world-famous supermodel who goes for lunch with Tyra Banks!

When her boyfriend dumped her, after telling her that she was fat and ugly, British singer ADELE was totally brokenhearted. BUT today, the girl is the highest-earning British singer and has won 8 GRAMMY AWARDS!

When he used to sweep the corridors of Ghetto Radio and serve tea to the Presenters, they all laughed at him for being tiny and low-class. BUT today, MBUSII is Kenya’s Best Male Radio
Presenter!

He started singing in 2000. He made over ten albums AND still NOBODY cared! They laughed at his weird, senseless songs….and He almost gave up music BUT then, he released GANGNAM STYLE, and today, PSY is a global mega-superstar, earning billions of dollars and with the MOST WATCHED video in YouTube History!

Hey, THE WORLD’S Expectations are NOT God’s Preparations!!!
While the WORLD is busy hating, GOD is busy Loving!
While the WORLD is busy Destroying You, GOD is busy Building You!
While the WORLD is Running away from You, GOD is busy Running towards You!
While the WORLD thinks Your time is Up, GOD IS SAYING; YOUR TIME IS NOW!!!

Keep Praying!
Keep Hoping!
Keep Trusting!
Keep Believing!
THE LORD is NEVER LATE. It doesn’t matter what’s being said to make you feel bad with yourself, you’re important, so keep believing in your ability to SUCCEED. BE MOTIVATED…

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REASONS WHY YOUR MAN MIGTH NOT WaLK DOWN THE ALTAR WITH YOU

………. Relationship is meant for matured and serious minded people. Being fully grown does not really guarantee that one is emotionally matured enough to handle a serious commitment in terms of relationship. When you are into someone who you believe is the one for you but he has never brought up the issue of marriage and when you picks the courage to talk about it, he never make any serious contribution; he promises you his love but its taking him eternity to solidify his commitment and set up a wedding date, find out the reasons behind his dragging of his feet. Here are some of the things that can make him drag his feet.

*He may be having another woman in
mind or he is waiting for another
woman to finally make up her mind but is using you to while away the time. A man can be so close, spends time with you but has another lady in mind for marriage. Do not waste your time and energy on any man who has no plans of getting married to you.

*When his family pressurizes him not to take you for a wife for some reasons: maybe due to your culture, finance or religion. When a man has fear, cannot make his own decision and lives under the influence of his parents. Such man don’t know what he want and if you by chance wins the hurdle and marry him, you will continue to keep guard because the family can surprise you in the future. Why prefer to live in fear in the name of marriage? A man who cannot take decision and think for himself is a poor investment of your time and energy.

*What type of impression do you give
the man who is interested in you? That you are not ready for marriage even when you look old enough? Do you hang out with different men? This will certainly make a man drag his feet because you are undecided about him.
*He will surely drag his feet when you
give him much sex as he needs it; do
you know why? He already has what
he need to pay for, free of charge so,
there is no need to be committed to
you and he also have the belief that you give sex to other guys too.

*He drags his feet when he sees that
you will become a liability to him. Is
your vision, life and career unstable?
Put yourself in order because it might
be the reason why the man coming
around you finds it difficult to be committed. When a man is not ready for you, don’t force things. Know what you want and don’t put your life on hold because a man is finding it difficult to make decisions. You have only one life, try and live it with clarity of purpose.

Let Peace Rule

“And let the peace (soul harmony which comes) from the Christ rule(act as umpire continually) in your hearts–deciding and settling with finality all questions that arise in your minds…. And be thankful–appreciative, giving praise to God always.” (Colossians 3:15)

Have you been praying that God will let you know whether a certain action you want to take is agreeable to His will or not? Let this peace of Christ be your guide. Let it help you settle the issue. If you start to take that action and you realize you don’t have peace about it, don’t do it.

Remember, though, that this inner leading of the Holy Spirit, this subtle sense of uneasiness or peace He gives you, is something you have to watch and listen for carefully. The primary way He speaks to you is by what the Bible calls an inward witness.

So, you have to listen. You can’t just stay busy about the things of the world all the time. You have to give Him time and attention.

Also, watch out for strife. If you’re irritated and upset about things in your life, it will be very hard to receive that quiet guidance from the Holy Spirit. So take heed to the instructions at the end of this scripture and “be thankful… appreciative, giving praise to God always.” Maintain a thankful, grateful heart. You’ll find it much easier to hear the “umpire of peace” when He makes a call.

TEN COMMANDMENT FOR LADIES/GIRLS.

1.Don’t be in a hurry to move out of your parents house.
2. Don’t wait for a man before you start living. You can live a fulfilled life as a single woman.
3. Stay away from alcohol. It has killed others and you are not special.
4. Don’t entertain a wrong number call, especially at night. Its not the right way to find a lover. 5.Develop a healthy eating habit. Always take breakfast and avoid sweets.
6. Dress well: impression count. People will judge you by the way you dress even before they talk to you
7. Don’t use sex as proof of love. Sex is no proof of love, he’ll leave you after the sex.
8. Don’t marry for the money, else you’ll become one of his possessions.
9. Add value to yourself – get a career. Don’t be fooled that a man will solve all your problems.
10. Beauty is not everything. If it is all you have, you’ll lose your place to someone beautiful better more matured and competent than you.

Reasons Why Women Do Not Date Nice Guys!!!

Women say they want a nice guy, yet usually end up dating bad boys. Here’s why.

1. Not Real.
Nice guys are too nice. No one can
always be that nice unless they’re a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real and women instinctively don’t trust that. Bad boys “keep it real.” Nice guys don’t want to upset the apple cart.

2. Respect.
No one respects a doormat. Nice guys
don’t set boundaries or make any real demands. A bad boy doesn’t let a woman walk all over him or control him. Women can’t respect a man they can control. No respect equals no attraction.

3. Predictable.
Most people lead boring and predictable lives, so they’re attracted to people who are exciting and a bit unpredictable. Bad boys are always a challenge. Nice guys are never a challenge. Predictable plus no excitement plus no challenge equals I prefer a bad boy.

4. Mother Nature.
Women are designed to nurture.
However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with bad boys. They think their love will save them. Nice guys rarely need to be saved.

5. Fixer-upper.
Nice guys don’t usually need to be fixed. Bad boys usually do, so they become a project. Women think if they can “create” the perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if they’re busy fixing someone else, they don’t have
to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.

6. Fluid Wars.
Women are designed to procreate
with the strongest possible genes. Bad boys are sending an unconscious message that they have great genes, so they’re not afraid of losing the woman by misbehaving. Nice guys are sending a message that they don’t think their genes are good enough, so they won’t misbehave.

7. Fear of Intimacy.
If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid
it with a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there. A nice guy will eventually want a commitment, and that’s scary.

8. Low Self-esteem.
We don’t feel comfortable with people who treat us better than we treat
ourselves. If you don’t think much of yourself, the bad boy is simply reinforcing your negative belief. A nice guy is treating you in a way you’re not
familiar with.

9. Sex.
Women feel a nice guy won’t be good in bed. They sometimes like to be manhandled and think a nice guy won’t be able to take control and get the job done. A bad boy comes across as being able to deliver, even though that may not always be the case.

10. Hot.
Have you ever seen a bad boy who
wasn’t hot? I’m sure there are a few, but they wouldn’t be able to get away with half the stuff they did if they didn’t look so good. Meanwhile, when a woman describes someone as a nice guy, she means, “He’s not hot.”

11. Charm.
Nice guys don’t always know what to
say and are sometimes at a loss for words. Bad boys can be very charming and know exactly what women want to hear. However, they eventually switch over to being selfish. By the time they reveal their true colours, the woman
has fallen for them and has a hard time letting go.

12. Protection.
Historically, men have protected
women — physically and otherwise. Bad boys give the illusion of being able to protect women, while with nice guys, women aren’t so sure. Life is about balance. Most men fall into either the bad boy or the nice guy category. The ideal man is neither, but walks that fine line between the two.

Until men learn how to do this, more often than not, women will choose the bad boy, until they realize that his bad qualities outweigh his good ones.

WARNING LADIES! 10 Thing You MUST Not Do In front Of Your Man.

1. Fart in front of your man.

Men hate this to the core, they may pretend not to but they really hate when you do it in their presence. If you doubt me, first, check out the real meaning of the word ‘farting’ and then go and ask a man whom you don’t know to tell you what he thinks of a lady who fart or always fart in front of him.

2. Eating too much.

Try to control your eating habit when you are with your man. Do not be deceived with the fact that he loves you: he may give you red card because of your eating habit.

3. Washing of your undies (panties).

NEVER you wash your undies in presence of your man. Forget that popular slang which tends to say that when a man loves you, he can even wash your. undies. It is a big fallacy and please, washing of. your undies front of your man makes him see you as a dirty and shameless element.

4. Bad sitting habit (improper sitting).

This is very important to you ladies because some. of you feel comfortable sitting anyhow in front of your man. You feel he is yours and he should see your laps, your pants etc since he is used to seeing them. But a typical man feels insecure when you do this in front of him: he feels you will also do it front of others. Men hates this, earn to sit properly in front of your man.

5. Laughing excessively Control the length you laugh in front of your man.

When he is not around, you can laugh and bring down the roof if you wish. I was talking to a lady and she laughed so loud. that she didn’t know when she polluted: Too bad.

6. Talking too much.

We men have come to accept that women talk too much but we still hate it. Be moderate when talking in presence of your man. You may talk and win the award as the most expensive talkative. when your man is not around.

7. Talking dirty.

Please, have control of things you say in front of your man. Don’t be too naughty when it comes to your language except you want to remain a
GIRLFRIEND FOR LIFE!!!!!

8. Drinking of alcohol.

Though, not all men hate this attitude but most men do.

9. Always watching movies.

if you love to always watch movies, please, for the sake of not receiving any RED CARD, stop that once your man is around. Give him total concentration if he is talking with you.

10. Fighting.

Never you fight in front of your man, he may feel. that one day you will fight his mother.

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Don’t Look at the Storm

“But when he saw the wind boisterous, he was afraid; and beginning to sink, he cried, saying, Lord, save me. And immediately Jesus stretched forth his hand, and caught him, and said unto him, O thou of little faith, wherefore didst thou doubt?” (Matthew 14:30-31)

If there’s any way the devil can get your eyes away from the Word, he’ll do it. He’ll cause trouble. He’ll make the circumstances around you pitch and roll like a rowboat in a hurricane. He’ll do anything he can to get you to concentrate on the realm of the physical senses and the situation around you instead of on the promise of God–because he knows that if he doesn’t, you’ll take that promise and beat his brains out with it.

Don’t let that happen to you. Once you get a revelation from the Word of God, hang onto it. Don’t focus on anything else.

The devil will do everything he can to get you to turn loose of it. He’ll stir up things around you. He’ll try to get you into fear. He’ll push every button he can from the past to get you back into your old way of thinking.

But don’t let go. Keep your eyes on the Word of God until it’s more real inside you than anything else. If you do, you’ll be able to walk your way across the water just fine.

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BE INSPIRED and MOTIVATED

We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as impossible situations.

Many of us have unconsciously erected barriers to protect ourselves from failing or succeeding. We may think we’re protecting ourselves by denying our creative impulses, but all we’re doing is burying our authentic selves alive.

If you don’t like how things are going, then change them. If you can’t change them, change the way you think about them.

If a thing is worth doing, it is worth doing well. If it is worth having, it is worth waiting for. If it is worth attaining, it is worth fighting for. If it is worth experiencing, it is worth putting aside time for.

Be too positive to be doubtful~Too optimistic to be fearful~And too determined to be defeated~Be strong!
Never tell yourself “I am tired.” The more you accept that thought, the more exhausted you’ll become. But if you tell yourself, “I can do even more.” You’ll find that there are no limits to what you can accomplish.

For God never gets tired of guiding you all the time. Good luck in all your endeavors today. Have a great week ahead, Be Inspired.