Building a home is not the same as building a house of blocks of flats, a duplex or a mansion. its not also the expensive interior decorations and
furnishing that makes a home. home building, simply put is a godly wife who assumes the status of a God fearing, hospitable mother. The bible puts it this way in proverb 18:22, who so findeth a wife, findeth a good thing and obtaineth favour of the lord.
This is the prime factor required for building a home. i encourage you therefore to pray and seek to be a wife, not just a woman in the house.
The quality of a happy home is not being married to a poor spouse or to a rich spouse but on the fact that the home is built on PERFECT LOVE regardless of material endowment.
To build a home follows the same structural pattern of building a house, hinged on the three cardinal principles of:
1. LAYING A GOOD FOUNDATION: the foundation of a home being built starts with Luke 6:48. its linked to a spouse who built his house, and dogged deep (conviction of choice) and laid the foundation on a rock( certain of God in choice of a bride) and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon the house( arising strife, disagreement, pains, disappointment etc) and could not shake it. for it was founded upon a rock( not unstable water). the foundation is a combination of different blocks joined together, such as dis factors listed below:
a: the spouse must be matured physically ( serious minded and grave) going into marriage not babies, novices or playboys. the decision to marry must be based on a sure conviction that is beyond all iotas of doubts.
b: emotional maturity: is a key foundation ensuring u can bear all tins including the nonsense. if u cannot take nonsense it means yourself control, anger and passion is in doubt. it may not hold sway when under pressure.
c: God fearing: are u willing to surrender to God’s word at crisis times? like when peter said ” at thy word” if God says forgive… i will forgive no matter how hurt i feel. this is the epitome of humility, self- discipline and respect for each other’s differences
d: same faith: and worship together with same vision, same mission and same purpose, two heads is better
Than one. Eccl4:9
2. RAISING THE HOME TO ROOF LEVEL: is a life time journey dat terminates when ”death do us part” and not parting via divorce or separation. building the home at this stage is a continuous day by day, diligent, steady effort of laying the blocks of:
a: virtue: a home wit character, strength and righteousness.
b : knowledge : be creative, learn frm others through reading marriage books, attend marriage counselling, sear @ the feet of elderly women and
ask questions. Titus2:2-3 and apply such knowledge practically.
c: temperance: conquer yourself, esteem ur partner better than yourself, seek peaceful solution to all unfavorable matters.
d: patience: learn to wait until u achieve desired results. haste is destructive.
e: Godliness: righteousness exalts a nation and family too. jesus in the family happy happy home but satan in the family, trouble trouble home. in all your ways acknowledge him and he shall direct ur paths.
f: brotherly kindness: be compassionate, be pitiful, be considerate, be caring, be merciful and be flexible. do not be rigid or stiff-necked.
g: communication: the spouse must be expressive not wit critical mind but constructive mind. always positive , never negative. let feelings be expressed, burdens shared is burden halved. when expression is muzzled or stiffened, fear, frustration, lying, lack of of confidence rears up in the home among members of the family of
husband, wife and children.
h: responsible roles: husband and wives should be the best of frnds and confidant. the husband is commanded in Eph5:25 to love his wife, that is,
love her strength, her weaknesses, her mistakes wit careful correction, thru the application of 1Cor 13:1-13. accept her failures,her ugly past, and bad parts and of course her good part is a bonus to home building. the wife is also commanded to treat her husband as the head of state of the home. she should be submissive, (don’t be stingy wit the cookie OK) obedient, reverent and respectful without conditions even when the husband is known to be wrong.
i: industrious: find something to do no matter how little.
j: a very good cook: dis is a very good part and very important too (guys am sure u all knw what am talking abt nah) bcos FOOD is the entrance to a
man’s heart.
k: manager: managing the resources available to u for home keeping without comparing ur home with any other. ur home is unique and by no means is it inferior or superior to any other home.
l: meek and quiet spirit: speak the same language wit ur husband and vice versa especially before the children.
3: THE ROOFING OR THE CAPSTONE; now dat the home is raised to roofing level, the capstone which is charity will be placed accordingly, 2Peter 1:7.
charity or love, the covering for the home is preferably used than any other material in home building bcos it covers a multitude of sins. all mistakes, lapses, errors, pains, failures, misunderstanding, careless talks are not announced outside the confines of the home to the itching ears of in-laws, frnds, parents and family members. rather seek peaceful solution within your comfortable bedrooms. nagging, contentions , or inviting a 3rd party will only escalate matters and make a mountain out of an ant hill.
wow! finish here i come…… A HOME
ENCOMPASSED IN LOVE AND BY LOVE CAN WITHSTAND THE STORMS AND WINDS OF LIFE. Love u future wife, even while am yet to meet u. sooooo touching, romantic and soooo…………………….lolz
Chinakschris 